Being Mortal by Atul Gawande

Subtitle: Medicine and What Matters in the End -- I was hesitant at first to read this.  I know that death is inevitable and sometimes I just don't want to think about it.  Gawande is a doctor and the longer in his profession he saw things that were lacking when it came to the end of life.  Doctors are taught to save people at all costs, almost to the point of the patient be damned.  He wrote about many different cases, including his fathers, and how everything was dealt with.  There are the doctors that took the time to listen and nurses and hospice care that gave value back to peoples lives.  Family is always hard, and being young and faced with a terminal illness is challenging.  You don't want to give up.  As the patient there are things to look at and we always talk about the quality of life.  Three questions that I came away with and that I will use with me and my family when things are nearing the end are: 1. What are your goals? 2. What are your fears? and 3. Where is the line in the sand?  These things can change as your health changes, but it gives everyone a baseline to work with and control to the one whose life is directly being affected.  The end of life does not need to be a terrible experience and we need to remember that doctors don't always know what is best.